Dating 101/ Advice
Ughhhhh dating is hard ya'll... and I swear it takes years to master. I don't have all the answers, AT ALL! BUT I have learned quite a bit through experiences of my own/ through watching/helping friends! Us gals gave to stick together. There are so many things that have helped me; books, quotes, friends, etc. Here are some of them!!
THINGS TO THINK ABOUT:
We’ve all been there; we do ALL the wrong things and MESS it up, we look like an idiot, we turn into a stage 5 clinger, or maybe you have no idea what you’re doing wrong. It’s time for some tips I’ve learned along the way as a single 20 something!
KEEP YOUR INDEPENDENCE, it’s SEXY!
Just because you meet someone doesn’t mean you need to be attached at the hip. Think about it, remember the last time you wanted to hang with someone you liked and they were busy, we both know it made you want them even more. It’s science. We want what we can’t have. And no I didn't say fake it, or play games, but just be real and keep your life going.
DON’T STOP DOING YOU.
The girls/ boys trip you had planned, keep it on the calendar. The yoga class, or gym grind you do every Tuesday, don’t change that. Bible study on Wednesdays? Count me in the rest of the year. Your partner should add to your life, not be your life.
STOP OBSESSING!
Okay seriously you’re getting creepy. Don’t check his/her insta 5x a day. Or watch their story 30 seconds after it’s posted. This person is not God, they are not perfect, or someone to be placed on a pedestal, so stop acting like you have nothing better to do then be a stage 5 clinger. Know your worth babes!
IF HE/SHE WANTS TO TALK, YOU’LL KNOW.
Seriously y’all, this one is easy. Don’t double and triple text them & make excuses as to why you should message them again. Trust me they saw your message. They are either too busy at the moment, or just not feeling it. Be calm, play it cool. I’m all about someone making the first move; but don’t make the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd haha! Let them meet you half way.
ACCEPT, HE/SHE ISN’T FEELING IT.
Read the signs they are sending. Pick up on their body language and verbal communication. It’s okay for someone to just not like you. It doesn’t take away from your worth. It doesn’t mean you’re not amazing. Shoot, half the time their the one with the problem not you. Flush it and keep moving on.
LESS IS MORE. This relates to all aspects (well al most all).
Less physical play time, make them work for it/ earn it. Don’t give away the cards all at once. My mama always said why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free!
Less information, you are newly dating they don’t need/ want to know every detail about your entire life, entire day, every emotion, etc right away. Nor does this person yet deserve to know every intimate story of what makes you you. These things take time, and should.
Less drama; y’all they have their own to worry about I highly doubt they want double the load; keep your family and friends for that nonsense… at least for a while.
BOOKS TO READ: Below I linked 2 amazing books, I highly recommend. They are linked so click them and check them out!
